Should You Rebuild a Bridge That’s Broken?

Should You Rebuild a Bridge That’s Broken?

by Tera Warner

It’s time to address how to fix it when a kafuffle comes into your communication sphere.

Hearts do break.

Bridges do burn.

Crap happens.

If there is a relationship taking up your attention, and you’d like to repair it or make it go right again, then here are a few things to consider before you do it, and a few tips on how to make it happen!

Get Honest With Yourself.  Real Honest.

When you look at the relationship you’re addressing, do you understand what went wrong?

Do you feel clear on what YOU did to create a problem?

Do you feel confident that you could do something to improve the situation?

Would having this person back in your life be something that improves your life and overall well-being?

Before you pull out your halo and start to make any moves, I want you to do something really important. I want you to really LOOK at the situation, at the actions and experiences and do your very best to get clear on what REALLY happened. You need to remove the emotion and put in reason and observation for this one.

Allow Me To Share

Recently, I had an opportunity to restore a connection with a person. It was a person who had been a significant part of my life at one time. And, much to my own surprise, at the suggestion of some friends who are very close to me, who helped me see the situation for what it really was (I was too busy being Little Miss Peace, Love & Happiness) I decided NOT to restore communication.

*gasp!*

I know. I shocked myself.

But I guess what I had to do was REALLY look and REALLY get honest with myself about that person’s actions and intentions. I had to get really honest with myself about the things that I had experienced with that person.

It’s so EASY for me to see the good in everyone. And there is SO much good to see. But the truth is that I have many friends, who even on their BAD days are still good to be with. I have friends who communicate clearly, honestly, without invalidating others. I have friends who are patient, understanding and compassionate.

I have friends who, when I’m with them, I feel bigger, wider. Like they can take MORE of me and I can be more of who I really am!

And I have other acquaintances who, when I’m with them, I feel myself shrink. I feel my attention get stuck in my head. I feel LESS than who I REALLY am.

So when I decided to get really honest with myself about the number of hours in my day, the number of goals and objectives on my agenda, and my own desire to live without a leash on and being as authentic as I possibly could be, I had to sit down and really decide if restoring that communication would be the best thing for me.

And the truth, when I was brave enough to look it in the face, was that it wasn’t.

And so I politely wrote an email and suggested that we no longer be in communication.

And you know, while it wasn’t easy, it was the right thing to do for me. And I’ve just felt surrounded with incredible people ever since. I feel up. I feel WIDE like the ocean. I feel inspired and uplifted and “back on track.”

I am fortunate to have people like YOU in my life. People who actively invest in doing what they can to make the world a better place. Not just for themselves, but for all people.

So before restoring communication with someone, check and make sure that you truly know and feel that restoring communication with this person would be the best thing for you, and the best thing for that person.