The Importance of Silence: Knowing When Not to Communicate
By Tera Warner
Psssst….
You know, one of the most important things you need to learn about effectively communicating is knowing when NOT to communicate. š
You gotta know when to close your mouth and tune into your other perceptions sometimes.
I remember when I first met my ex-husband. He was a wild and crazy artist, but almost never spoke a word. I would constantly ask him, “What’s happening?” or “What are you thinking?” And one day, in the most gracious way he could he said to me…
“There are other ways to communicate besides talking, you know.” š
Silence is Golden
When you are with people who are unwell, sick, injured, or even depressed and feeling a bit low on the scale of livingness, often your ability to be quiet, still, slow and observant is the most important thing you can do.
Observe today what other things you perceive or fall into communication with when you put words away and start communicating with some of your other senses.
Let them finish
I admit. This one is tough for me.
I’m a pretty enthusiastic little critter. I love life. IĀ get so excited about things I can just about BURST sometimes.
However, as cool as that can seem, in the presence of someone who needs/wants space, time, quiet or is easily intimidated, that can be an annoyance and a problem. And while I’m all for authenticity and being yourself, I’m also for being aware and creating comfortable experiences for other people.
Not everyone is comfortable communicating, and cutting a person off while they are trying to express themselves is actually a really, uncool, not kind thing to do.
It creates a dangling conversation…
It creates an incomplete thought…
It makes people more likely to hold themselves back, and we don’t need people to be holding themselves back in life.
Unless, of course, they’re trying to cut someone off in a conversation.
As a communication ninja, you now are granted the authority invested in me by flowers and forests and trees and bees to go out there in the world and preserve the integrity of a complete communication.
Let people finish what they have to say.
Don’t allow interruptions, distractions, etc. Turn your cellphone OFF and give people the courtesy and gift of your FULL and undivided attention until they have completed expressing themselves.
It feels amazing to be heard and understood. It feels so liberating to be able to say what we think and have it lovingly received. The more you are able to grant this to the people around you, the more they will enjoy being with you, trusting you and sharing themselves with you.
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