OK…if it's gotta come up, let it come up!

“The problem is you think your problem is your problem” Anthony Robbins

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you feel yourself trying to make a situation go a certain way despite how it seems to be going…and you are using all your might to somehow repress or manipulate things to be different than the way they really are?  Like steering a conversation in another direction when actually the other person really is trying to express how they are feeling, but it wouldn’t be comfortable or acceptable to you, so you do whatever you can to by-pass their point of view, so that it can’t truly come up.

Of course we have all been there.  If we are conscious, we recognise this pattern.  We may not realise it at the time what we are doing, but we can admit “Oh ya, I do that.”

Oh ya, everybody does.  We feel safer, more in control, and less vulnerable if we can stop others form doing, saying, even believing certain things, especially concerning us.  Can you feel just from READING that, how draining that is?

Naturally, it is easier to do this with children, because we can quite easily use tactics which distract them, or, we can even overwhelm them and sort of bully them into another emotional position with our bribes or our anger. With adults it can be much more intense of an effort.  And we may think our efforts to avoid conflict are worth it, especially if they seem to accomplish avoiding it.  But actually, we are merely delaying the whole purpose of why the issue is coming up in the first place. Any trial, or experience which is coming up for us which doesn’t feel good, is coming up as an OPPORTUNITY to release us from its grip on us.

In martial arts we learn that to resist our opponent’s force isn’t the best defence, and can actually hurt us.  When we resist other people, circumstances, or even our own stuff, we block the potential to be healed or lifted above and beyond it.  The goal is not to avoid issues or conflict at all costs, but to SEE IT DIFFERENTLY and get to a point where the issues or conflict are recognised for what they actually are meant to be- GIFTS.  Because if we can ALLOW and ACCEPT what IS, then the troubles are transformed into the marvellous! What happens when we can meet other people or situations or even ourselves with an open heart, and just release everyone and everything to be exactly as they ARE, so that our perception is raised above the level of accusing anyone of anything, what happens is instead of getting angry or hurt, we become extremely peaceful.

It never matters what others are doing, it only matters how you are interpreting it.  Anytime we believe someone else is at fault, all that is happening is that we haven’t realised that there is a valuable lesson for us to see; the areas where we are stuck and could instead be free.  Anytime something happens that brings up fear or hurt in us, it is the chance to realise the only purpose of this issue coming up is to teach us that actually the worst thing that can happen is the fear or hurt. 

We cannot control what happens.  But we can transform what happens by our ability to understand that what is happening is nothing to upset about or afraid of.  It’s a lesson, and the point isn’t to hope it won’t come up, but to just get the lesson, to just see where your rough edges are so you can soften and grow and allow life to strengthen and evolve you.

As a Mom, we cannot prevent our children from always being hurt in life.  To protect them from everything would be to stunt their growth, right?  All we can do is prepare our children emotionally to meet their life in a strong, open and capable way so they can best deal with whatever happens.

We are at the cross-roads of human consciousness.  If there are issues in us that need to be healed, let them surface.  And eat your beautiful, clean, simple raw food with joy and a twinkle because it really helps us to get over our emotional stuff, and allow the light to come shining in, no matter what is happening.  All situations are perfect. When you know that, you stand in dominion, and that is Mastery. Bliss!