Making Sense Of Men Mondays: Single, by choice.

Well, as may have become obvious, my little tigers are back from their vacation and time has quickly sucked itself out of my life.

HOLY COW is it ever incredible to think of how bum wiping and dispute resolution consume such an enormous part of my day. That having been said, it’s Monday! The kids finally left for their Dad’s for the night and it’s my time to get juicy.

And, since we’ve made Monday our Making Sense of Men days, I thought I’d share a few of the thoughts that wiggle themselves about in my brain as I drift off to sleep at nights.

Having taken the time recently to evaluate my past relationships I really got to see what worked and what didn’t. I get, now, where I made mistakes and I am observing myself do a complete 180 degree turn in terms of how I handle my relationships and communication.

In my ideal scene before two people decide to embark on the adventure of loving each other, they’d sit down and share their visions for the world. Ask a thousand questions of what they like, what they don’t like. Put sex, money, kids and past relationships out there on the table for both sides to see and THEN decide if the whole package makes sense.

I’ve never liked being a statistic. I didn’t want to be a divorcee. I believe in love and partnership and think that a family, when it functions with love and trust and supportive communication, is one of the most beautiful things I’ve ever witnessed.

But I do think you can live a perfectly fulfilled and empowered life without having a long term partner.  YES! It’s exciting and fun, and there’s so much to learn, but I’ve seen myself so on fire about life, community and the creative work I do that I’ve questioned whether a relationship is really something I need or want right now.

And you know what, I really don’t think I do.

I’m so excited by the work we do, so busy with kids and so engaged in my studies that I just don’t really WANT to take on more. I feel fulfilled and the first thing I’ve learned in this incredible process for myself has been how much I really like just being ME.

And that’s an awfully good place to start.

Muah!

xo

Tera