Making Sense Of Me!
Written by Tera on July 28, 2008 – -
The last few weeks I’ve posted on the idea of “Making Sense of Men”.
I don’t quite know how to say this, without sounding a bit silly, but, as I had been warned, within about 24 hours of my last post about feeling great with independence, Mr. Right smacked me upside the head like a pickup truck out of nowhere.
I think I mentioned I’ve been doing a bit of self-reflection–looking at how the decisions I’ve made in relationships have ultimately lead to some, well… less than ideal circumstances. 
And it’s not easy to look back on your choices and wonder, “Why on EARTH!?!…”
One of my life’s mottos is:
“Never regret yesterday, life is in you today and you create your tomorrow.”
How true. So while I’ve not been willing to beat myself up for some of my choices, I have been wanting to get clarity on WHY certain decisions were made and how to stop repeating irrational patterns.
I’ve done a lot of that kind of work on myself recently, and it’s clear that my life has taken a complete 180 degree turn.
So, what about this “Making Sense of Men” thing?
Well, frankly, having received the materials in the mail, they leave me uninspired.
Why?
Because I think what’s more important than someone’s interpretation of what “men” need or what “women” need–I think what’s more important than these gendered generalizations–is the power of communication, and an ability to decide.
I think when you DECIDE what you want for yourself in relationship to another person, and when you’re willing to communicate about what is needed and wanted BEFORE you jump into things, to really find out if this is a team that can survive and support each other in powerful ways, then I don’t know what more you really need.
These things and the willingness to constantly co-create a relationship seem like the missing ingredients in a powerful relationship.
I believe people really can create the lives they WANT for themselves–not just survive and trudge through life. I think once I started Making Sense of Me, the right man just POOF! appeared. (Ildiko was right, he showed up faster than she could type her little message!)
Okay… so, I’ve got some unopened CDs and understanding men to send back in the mail and a green juice to make this morning.
Isn’t life neat when you get a few more things into perspective.
Love and hugs,
Tera
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By Anita on Jul 28, 2008
Am I reading right, that Mr. Right came along after that last blog on men?
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By Tera on Jul 28, 2008
Yup.
Within 24 hours.
xoxo
Muah!
ox
Tera
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By ildiko on Jul 28, 2008
Don’t want to sound toooo cheeky, but told you soooooooooo!!!
You go Girl!!!!
Ildiko
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By Anita on Jul 28, 2008
How fun!!!!
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By Debbie on Jul 28, 2008
Glad to hear it.. just keep juicing and how knows what will happen next???
the sky’s the limit!
deb
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By Tera on Jul 28, 2008
Hehe…
Well, it definitely caught me by surprise.
Have you ever heard of the idea of “reach and withdraw”? It’s like couples who try and try and try to have a baby, but can’t finally go to adopt a child.
Then after the adoption goes through, they get pregnant!!
They never talk about that in the “Secret” or the “Law of attraction” but the truth is that if you “chase” after something too hard, you can almost repel it. And it’s not that I was really chasing… (well, maybe), but when I let go then it was like… SLACK! it just hit me in the side of the head.
Life is waaaaay too much fun.
But hey, girls… here’s a topic for conversation that I wouldn’t blast on the front page (comments are fine).
He’s 17 years older than I am!! *gasp!*
Whaddya think of THAT??
*blush*
xoxo
Tera
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By Anita on Jul 29, 2008
Isnt age just a number that we can let keep us from good things? Whether its our own age with being too young or old to do something or wear something. Or when its dating someone that is older or younger than us but could be so good for us, either right then or long term.
What is it all about, Tera?…..remember its about knowing ourselves and being comfortable with that and our choices come ‘right as rain’ when its stemmed off of that.
Im excited for you and you are the one that knows whats good for you. Enjoy whatever the time brings with him and forget that number, dearheart!!!
All the best to you,
Anita
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By Tera on Jul 29, 2008
Awwww…
thanks for this. Well, like I said–I did a FULL 180 degree turn. Soo… it’s nothing like anything I’ve ever done. I’ll keep you posted.
Mmmmmuah!
xox
Tera
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By ildiko on Jul 29, 2008
Oh, so what??!!!!
I dated once someone 12 years younger and 13 years older than me.
I would definetely go with younger!!!!!!!!!!!
You go girl……
And we cannot wait to hear the juicy details, of course!
BTW, yes, part of the law of attraction cycle is the let go, cause you cannot hang on to the end result. This process of letting go is also explained extensively in the TAo Te Ching.
God luck,
Ildiko
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By Tera on Jul 29, 2008
You are adorable!!!
Loooove your sweet commends and can’t wait to meet you in person!
WOW!! 12 years younger, too!
You ARE a feisty diva.
Looove and hugs,
Tera
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