5 Ways to Get the "Ooompf" Back into Your Love Life TONIGHT!

Do you find that after all the time and energy put into being the best mommy you can be, getting through your to-do lists, and trying to find time to care for yourself, your love life is left a little, well…lacking?

Between the breastfeeding, baby-carrying, housework, homework, shopping, food preparing, playdates, homeschooling, etc., it’s easy to put romance on the back burner – when you can barely make time for a shower, who has the energy or desire for love, anyhow?

If your love relationship has felt a little lackluster lately, here are a few ways you can do put a little "oomph" back into things tonight!

Just “Do it”

If you’re one of those lucky gals who enjoyed sex right up until your delivery date, perhaps even used sex to help jump-start your labor, more power to you!

If you’re like me, and most women I know, you probably didn’t get a whole lotta attention down there from anyone but your gyno the better part of your third trimester… and then, Doctor’s orders, there’s no sex for the six weeks post-partum!  By this time you have become well established as one big, gigantic BOOB.

If you are at all like me, at the end of a day of being sucked on, slept on, peed on, and clung to, when and if you finally receive a little respite, the LAST thing you think you want is your lover’s roving hands fondling your bits, let alone to “do it”!

Well, you know that old adage, ‘Use it or lose it’?

Unfortunately, there’s some truth to it when it comes to libido. We are creatures of habit, and like all habits good or bad, when we break them, our cravings for them tend to wane; when we do them regularly, we can’t seem to get enough. Same goes for sex, so it’s worth it to jump back on that horse as often as possible, whether you’re in the mood or not, to re-establish that craving cycle and rev up your libido. Believe me, in no time you’ll be going at it like newlyweds again.

Send Steamy Love Notes

Send regular, sexy emails or text messages to your man throughout the day. Tell him how much you want him and how hot he makes you. Tell him you can’t wait to put the kids to bed so you can devour him. This will certainly jump-start his libido and, if you are having a hard time with just doin’ it, you will have no choice: once the kiddies are asleep he’s going to ravage you!

Make him ‘King for a Day’

Declare that, since he’s been such a wonderful partner and father, he has earned the most prestigious honor of being ‘King for a Day’. On this day his every wish is your command. You can even get your kids involved – they will have fun and he will feel extra special. Oh, and be sure to set up a date for ‘Queen for a Day”!

Write him a love letter

Unfortunately, we sometimes tend to let our relationships go for too long without a little TLC. You may be feeling so stagnate in your relationship and out of touch with your feelings of love for each other, that before you can even think about doing the above, you’re going to have to get back in touch with those feelings.

Sit down for one hour, and setting all resentments aside, write your man a truly heart-felt love letter. List all the things you love most about him. Thank him for all the support and special things he has done for you – be specific. Re-tell a story of a special moment or time with him. Read old letters, email, or journal entries from when you first fell in love for inspiration. Even if you don’t give him the letter, just going through this process may be all it takes to make you want to pounce on him and love him all up.

Go on a “First Date”

If you have a chance for a night off from the kids, set up a “first date” with your man. Let him choose a spot, then take separate cars. Get dressed to impress. Then pretend like you’re on your first date! See if you can fool everyone around you. Ask "getting to know you" questions (even though you think you know all the answers) and really listen to what each other has to say – you just might learn a few new things, AND fall in love all over again….

Happy Loving!

-Ardis