It’s Been Almost 10 Years. I’m Ready to Talk About It Now.
With the recent launch of the WISH Radio website and podcast, I’ve been reviewing many of the interviews and looking at some of the speakers and presenters we’ve had over time. I’ve also been watching a few of the presentations from Oprah’s latest Super Soul Sunday series held at UCLA.
Then, something hit me.
Everyone has “a story”—the reason or situation that got them to where they are today. Often it’s a struggle, an obstacle, an illness or unusual circumstance. But the story is always there and explains why this person is doing what they’re doing.
So I looked at my about page:
“Tera Warner is just an ordinary, run-of-the-mill gal who grew up in cattle country of Southern Alberta, Canada.”
While I admit a certain degree of inherent courage and leadership skills “came with the package,” roaming through cattle country isn’t exactly what got me where I am today!
What it took to create a business from scratch, with no background in business or marketing, while raising two children as a single mother, and studying like crazy on the side—that had way more to do with a sense of fearlessness and an unshakable commitment to stand by the things and the people I believed in.
Those things I learned from experience, they did not “come with the package.” Those things came out of “my story” and the one thing I haven’t talked about in nearly 10 years.
A Preface to “My Story”
Life can seem to be a series of random, unpredictable events, until the day you get knocked on the head by a spiritual sledgehammer and are forced to figure things out in a more meaningful way. My spiritual sledgehammer struck nearly 10 years ago while I was living in the tropical paradise of Costa Rica. At that time, I thought I had a dream job, a dream home and a dreamy relationship with my business partner and best friend.
Then, more rapidly than I could possibly process, the whole thing came crashing down and I was homeless, alone and confused. I’ll be sharing the details of what happened in this week’s WISH Radio podcast as part of a new category called “Soapbox Talks” where I share a few things on my chest, without interviewing anyone.
I decided it’s about time I tell “my story,” but before I do, I need you to understand these three things:
A Few Clarifications That Help Give Me Permission to Share My Story
1. I am entirely responsible for the relationship choices I’ve made. Though they may have been made out of confusion, ignorance and insecurity, I made them. Nothing I share is intended to blame or minimize other people who may have been involved in this story.
2. I have no regrets. Which doesn’t mean I don’t feel remorse for harm I caused, or sadness for loss and suffering endured. I can, however, look back at my past and let go knowing I did my best with what I knew at the time. That unlocks me from guilt or regret and gives me permission to create a future worth believing in.
3. This story will be told from my point of view. How other people may have viewed or experienced what happened is their point of view and one to which they are entitled. In choosing how to live my life, it’s my own personal experiences, perceptions and realizations which act as the compass for how I choose to navigate my life. I’m not saying my point of view is the only one, or that it is even “the right one,” but it is the one I have used to make sense of life and so it is the only one I am entitled or willing to share.
With all that out of the way, I do hope you’ll tune in tomorrow when I release this little something I’ve had sitting on my chest for about ten years now.
Love and thanks,
p.s. It’s a scary story, but with a happy ending. But I guess you already knew that. 😉